So after many moves, and attempted hacks I've finally found (what I think to be) a secure server with the folks at SiteGround. Please sign up for a new account.
The self validation thing should be active now and it shouldn't be necessary to ask me in game for assistance
(however I am more than happy to help any that need assistance. Toon name StankyManky, Realm: Staghelm).
(Guild Members looking to login/create an account click the three lines in the top left of the site).